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January 29, 2005

Nicole duFresne, 1977-2005: R.I.P.


She was shot to death in New York City early Thursday morning.

I only learned of it a few moments ago, reading this morning's New York Times story.

She was a brilliant and beautiful young playwright and actress whose work pushed against the edges and boundaries of comfort.

I wrote about her and her work in Version 1.0 last year.

She was nice enough to email me back and thank me, and invite me to see one of her plays if I happened to be in New York.

I never was.

And now this.

There is nothing to say, really.


Read the stories, I suppose.

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nicole died because she met up with a pack of uncilvilzed savages , ihope they burn in hell

Posted by: | Oct 29, 2008 8:00:45 PM

But it was more than stupid from her to ask "What will you do-Will you shoot us?"That was bitchy.

Posted by: Lucy | Feb 18, 2007 7:59:47 AM

Holy Crap! This site was about paying respects to a poor victim of crime. I hate it when people have to use blogs like this to preach about how God will save you. Get over it!


I think that's whats wrong with the world if you ask me. Everyone thinks THEIR religion is the ONLY religion. Nicole is in my thoughts as well as the millions of others who are killed by guns each year

Posted by: sharah | Oct 5, 2006 9:36:27 AM

How I got to know this name(nicole dufrense) was thru another website. Her name was mentioned (once) and so I decided to check out who she was and what she did and what happened to her.

People die everyday, be it in accident, murder, bomb, diseased, old age etc. People die and it is just a matter of 'when'.

Though I do not know her, I felt sorry too but what can we do when one is dead? What hope is there? If Nicloe knew Jesus christ as her Saviour, she will be where it has stated in the bible. But if she didn't know Jesus Christ, then, it is the worst tragedy of all.

People like us who are alive now, should at least have a thought about death that will come to us, ( I'm not saying that we think about it everyday or be negative about it, or frighten by it).
But rather,What happens after death? Where will the person go?

I beleive, while we have the chance to seek for Truth, we must do so, and I pray that people will turn to Jesus Christ, the God of the bible, who is our Saviour. He will take you to where He is - in the heavenlies. But without knowing Him, where would one go?

How I came to know Nicole duFrense name? Very sadly, thru a website "ministyofdreams." I wondered who she was as her name was mentioned by this person in the website. I hate to say this, but she wasn't where we thought she would end up in. This is most heart-wrenching to me, even though I do not know her. People are given choices in life. Has she ever taken seriously when she heard the name of Jesus Christ? and believe in Him?

Let us who are alive, make right choices to believe in the truth of Jesus Christ. Have our sins forgiven and be cleansed. When we are at death's door, at least if we have the last breath, to say..."Lord Jesus I'm coming home to Thee, saved in your arms eternally".

Don't die in your in sins. Repent! "Basic Instruction Before Living Earth"(Bible) will tell you where you'll go. That is the greatest comfort we shall have.

Posted by: crystal | Sep 4, 2006 10:21:05 PM

Wow there is so much hate in here. Why not celebrate life not death. The same violence that took this woman's life, some of you are willing to do the same. No one has the right to take anothers life, no matter the reason. We are loosing are mothers, fathers, sons and daughters every day over in IRAQ! Violence is all around us, not just in the big Cities. Celebrate her life and what she has accomplished, send prayers to her family, not so much hate and anger.

Posted by: CL | Feb 9, 2005 11:20:35 AM

I too went to school with Nicole in MN. Man, was she ever so vibrant back in 1994. I remember her being so kind to all. She was talented in not only the arts but she excelled at everything she did. To this day I have a recollection of her voice. It was powerful. 10 years, that's a long time but this girl was memorable and always will be...I cannot believe this is happening....I am sorry DuFrense family and friends...Your beloved will always be remembered not for her death but for how well she lived. Damn it, it sounds like she lived.

Posted by: Jean | Feb 8, 2005 10:28:18 PM

It takes a lot to move me to tears and cannot tell you how much this tragedy has affected me. People have been asking me what is wrong and I just tell them nothing. They say you look down and I tell them I am but not the reason why. The real reason is that such a bright and beautiful young person was taken away in such cowardly act. I would like to express my deepest sympathy to Nicole duFresne’s family, her fiancé Jeffrey Sparks and all her friends. A light has gone out on Broadway but her memories will shine forever.

Posted by: Sandy | Feb 8, 2005 8:18:45 PM

This is just another confirmation that as a society and nation that we should be more proavtive in addressing these issues that plague us. I will be omitting much peaceful energy for her. Another life cut short. Another purpose that was short lived.

Posted by: Tracy | Feb 7, 2005 10:06:15 PM

Many, many requests have come in from all
over the country regarding where to send donations in Nicole's name.
Thanks to the the dedication of the police and
to the courage and strength of Jeffrey and
Nicole's family to tell Nicole's story again and again to the press, making sure it was heard
everywhere, the suspects have been apprehended
and charged. We no longer need to collect
donations for a Crime Stoppers reward fund as was previously stated.
Instead, by the wishes of Jeffrey and
Nicole's family, we have set up a scholarship
in Nicole's name at her almamater, Emerson College.
For those wishing to make donations,
checks or money orders should be made out to Emerson College, with the memo line reading 'Nicole duFresne Scholarship',
and sent to:
Nicole duFresne Scholarship
Emerson College
120 Boylston Street, 7th floor
Boston, MA 02116-4624
Att: Amy Meyers
It is also possible to make a donation with a
credit card online, at
I don't think that the College has finished
setting up that link, so if you would like to make a donation online, please give it a day or two. This information has been released
to the press, so please, please, spread it far
and wide. Post the link on websites, send the
information to anyone you would like; we hope that we can raise a substantial amount of money, and thus enable this scholarship to be a real and lasting honor to Nicole's name.

Posted by: Shera | Feb 7, 2005 7:18:16 PM

This is such a tragic end to a woman who was living a fulfilling life. I know someone right now is contemplating writing her story for stage or screen. Whoever you are inspire us to go for our dreams as Nicole did.

Posted by: bryan beresh | Feb 6, 2005 2:49:57 PM

I am sorry. I went on Nicole's website..it's as if she is still here. I did not know her. Just read the headline.
Guns are the tumours of American culture.

Posted by: Laurie Gordon | Feb 3, 2005 9:53:46 PM

I worked with Nicole in Seattle on the play "Orgasmo Adulto Escapes from the Zoo". Each day, I think I'm healing a bit but then I discover that it just keeps getting harder to deal with. As the shock wears off and reality hits, I find myself very angry and hoping to have the courage and humanity to forgive the way she would have. I had the biggest cry ever last night and there is more to come. Since I moved to LA, I've been doing much spiritual work and have found my challenge in staying focused on that work to deal with losing such an amazing woman, artist, friend. My heart goes out to all who knew her and all who have written about her.
Oh, Nicole...I truly miss you.

Posted by: Madonna Cacciatore | Feb 3, 2005 6:27:49 PM

I taught Nicole at Emerson College. She was as brave on stage as she was on the street that night. She believed fundamentally, in the goodness of this world. She encountered someone who did not. I hope the gunman is brought to a clear understanding of exactly what kind of light he extinguished from our world; no more no less.

Posted by: Diego Arciniegas | Feb 3, 2005 5:12:48 PM

Once again, an exceptionally talented and promising life is cut short by a savage and mindless act. The best and most beautiful flowers that humanity has to offer have been trampled (again!) by those who respect nothing. A great human being, painstakingly raised, nourished and educated to make a positive difference in this world has been brutally murdered. For what? Does it really matter? The savages keep preying on the civilized, extinguishing unique and wonderful lives. A year ago I lost both my parents within 6 weeks, so I know what it feels like when death comes calling. May God grant Nicole's family and friends the strength and wisdom that they need to move beyond the senseless tragedy, for she is already in a better place, a perfect world of perfect love, watching over us. Take care and God Bless.

Posted by: Raul | Feb 3, 2005 12:31:11 PM

A beautiful life was taken so senselessly. I went to Wayazata with Nicole and remember her wonderful and warm personality and her passion for the arts. To all who loved her, you are in my prayers. May you rest in peace.

Posted by: Julie | Feb 3, 2005 11:57:23 AM

I have to respond to the comments posted by Richard. He mentioned that Nicole's aura transcended the normal tragedy. I strongly agree. I merely caught a glimpse of this story on television when I was instantly drawn to this woman. I never write on these websites. There is definitely something extraordinary here.

Posted by: Mary Lee | Feb 3, 2005 1:08:46 AM

This tragedy has haunted me since I first read of it later in the day of the murder. I found he website before it was altered. On it her resume was posted and what a powerful resume it was, though I knew nothing of her before.

When an attractive and intelligent young woman meets an untimely death, people take note. However, by all accounts this person was even more than that. She has a sort of aura that transcends the normal tragedy. Does anyone else feel this way? There will be a biographical play or movie based on her life someday I'm sure. The story is a perfect tragedy.

We can wish all sorts of evil on the culprits, but what good does it do? Society teaches kids that guns and killing are the American way, but heaven forbid if they see nudity in art or whatever. Where are the so-called parents of these hooligans? Where is the father? Absent I'm sure. They go to prison and come out worse than when they went in.

Posted by: richard | Feb 2, 2005 7:00:16 PM

life is like a dream we never know what where going to see we live day to day oh lord we must pray so meny thing a wrong so meny things are going on we have to make a change to make this world a better place. This a part of a song i wrote i just want people to take that in and think about it we live day to day be happy smile life is short remember money is the root of all evil. onelove to the family and the people who knew her rest in peace hun

Posted by: LOU | Feb 2, 2005 6:22:52 PM

the people involved should be tortured and humiliated for the rest of their lives.. And i would love to be the person to carry that out.

Posted by: agentOrange | Feb 2, 2005 1:40:52 PM

I didn't know this woman, I live in the area and the first word I heard about it was from her fiance on Good Morning America. There are no words that anyone can say to put any comfort here, a wonderful life has been lost. Justice will prevail, but it won't bring her back. Forever her family is now left with a hole of where she used to be. It's heartbreaking! I wish that the killer could be killed the same way!

Posted by: Renee | Feb 2, 2005 1:26:46 PM

Though I never knew this young victim... Things such as this happen in all communities... It angers me deeply. That a good bit.. NOT ALL of the YOUTH of today .. BLACK OR WHITE , there is no color barrier when it comes to this... That they have decided that they have the right to end a life.. THAT a GUN or A KNIFE makes them POWERFUL... when in reality.. they are nothing but TINY INSIGNIFCANT MISTAKES.. NOT BRAVE ENOUGH TO BE A REAL PERSON, GET AN EDUCATION AND STRUGGLE AND LIVE LIKE THE REST OF US. ... for that matter, it sickens me that anyone no MATTER WHAT THEIR AGE , would consider killing another human an option other than in self defense.. . MURDER? ROBBERY? WHY ????? I have no mercy in my heart at all for these ... these.. well... I do not label the creatures that did this to that poor woman or that do this to other victims as PEOPLE.. they are the vermin that haunts us.. USELESS TRASH.. sadly our tax dollars will cover their future housing expenses in PRISON..FRANKLY I HOPE THEY ALL ROT IN HELL and far more HONESTLY.. I wish that these creatures could suffer the same as their victims.. MAYBE THATS THE ONLY LESSON THESE CREATURES CAN UNDERSTAND..... SO WHY NOT AN EYE FOR AN EYE..???
No I am not an imbittered person at all... though I might sound it from reading the above.. I am just angry and I am sick of this perpetual violence that haunts this country.

MAY the family and friends of this Young accomplished beautiful woman and those out there that have have been victimized or have lost family members or friends.. Find comfort in the memories and good thoughts that their loved ones leave behind.. GOD BLESS and KEEP you all..

Posted by: Honi | Feb 2, 2005 1:14:14 PM

I went to school with Nicole in MN. I saw her just before x-mas at a high school holiday party. It's so sad that such a great person, with so much to offer, had to die so tragically. She will always be remembered.

Posted by: Tammy | Feb 2, 2005 7:44:56 AM

I am so sad and disgusted at the same time. What is it about "people" and I use that term loosely, who think that they can just take a life for their own selfish gains?
If they went to school and got a job instead of trying to take the easy way out, this horrible loss would never have had to happen.

Nicloe was not hurting anyone, she was going about her life, creating and loving life and those around her, then some ignorant selfish slobs thought it would be alright to go out and terrorize and rob innocent people?

Enough is enough. I have no sympathy whatsoever for what is going to happen to these horrible sickening excuses for human beings.

I think that when someone (even if they are 14 years old), takes part in such a senseless crime, then they should face the consequences. Take off the kid gloves and try her as an adult! Take away their freedom and make them live with this the rest of their sorry lives. The death penalty is the easy way out, thier deaths will not bring Nicole back. However, living in prison for the rest of their sickening lives, and having to think about what they did, that is real punishment, and that is what they deserve.
I am sorry for ranting but enough is enough.

May the Lord bless and keep Nicole, may she be at peace and create beautiful plays in her next life, wherever that takes her.
I wish peace for her family and friends, this has to be incredibly difficult for them, I hope that time can ease their pain.

Posted by: Maggie | Feb 2, 2005 1:40:09 AM

My thoughts and prayers go out to Nicole's friends and family. I graduated High School with her and my stomach dropped when I saw the story. She was such a wonderful person and will be missed terribly. My heart tells me that she won't rest until justice is served. Please be well and live a full life, she would want that.

Posted by: Kathi | Feb 1, 2005 9:38:44 PM

The animals who killed her should fry. Let justice be done, fry these animals.

Posted by: Your Mom's Box | Feb 1, 2005 7:28:16 PM

How tragic! I saw a production of hers at the Loring in Minneapolis. She was an intelligent and amazing person with so much potential. I send my deepest sympathy to her friends and family.

Posted by: Andrea Thorvilson | Feb 1, 2005 6:20:13 PM

The whole situation is a shame. Ignorance and pride, on the shooter's part, is to blame. Rest in Peace Nicole duFresne. You will be missed.

Posted by: Tom | Feb 1, 2005 12:52:32 PM

May God rest nicole's soul and comfort her friends & family. May he send the subhuman animal who did this to prison for the rest of his life without any possibility of parole. May the person who sold the killer the .357 magnum be really burdoned for the rest of his life with his transaction and may the penal system and DA who allowed this lowlife to be out on the streets take little comfort in their actions

Posted by: Joe Altschuler | Feb 1, 2005 12:47:42 PM

This sux. She was really pretty and now my tax dollars are going to sustain the piece of crap that killed her.

Posted by: Little Timmy Joe | Feb 1, 2005 11:07:50 AM

I never met this young woman, but her tragic death touched me. Any time a beautiful vibrant creature is cut off, the World weeps. I actually wept for this stranger because of her beautiful life, more than her death... Any creative being who did that much for those around her is a shining example of humanity at its best. It's perhaps not-too ironic that her life would end by someone displaying humanity at it's worst. Yes, they caught the alleged gunman, who apparently smirked, and showed no remorse. It's too bad I got to know about this vibrant being this way. Peace- come soon to her loved ones!

Posted by: Heidi | Feb 1, 2005 10:35:09 AM

may god rest her and keep her

Posted by: tommy lowe | Feb 1, 2005 9:03:49 AM

I heard they caught the scumbag that shot her.

Posted by: peter | Feb 1, 2005 12:42:51 AM

the shooting occured a mere three blocks from my apartment on a corner by all the time.
i still can't believe it.

Posted by: hornsofthedevil | Jan 30, 2005 11:42:16 PM

joe and joeheads - I knew that seeing the news of her death touched me for more than the sheer tragedy, I remember reading of this playwright via bookofjoe. Small world, even if it is, at times, a horrifying one. - Matt

Posted by: Mattp9 | Jan 29, 2005 10:09:56 PM

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