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February 4, 2013

"Marry or not?" The decision making process of young (29) Charles Darwin


From Lists of Note: "In July of 1838, six months before wedding Emma Wedgwood, his first cousin, 29-year-old Charles Darwin drew up a list [above] of marriage pros and cons. Indeed, the pros were too great to ignore, and the couple remained married until his death in 1882. They had 10 children." 

Transcript below.


This is the Question


Children — (if it Please God) — Constant companion, (& friend in old age) who will feel interested in one, — object to be beloved & played with. — better than a dog anyhow. — Home, & someone to take care of house — Charms of music & female chit-chat. — These things good for one's health. — Forced to visit & receive relations but terrible loss of time. —

W My God, it is intolerable to think of spending ones whole life, like a neuter bee, working, working, & nothing after all. — No, no won't do. — Imagine living all one's day solitarily in smoky dirty London House. — Only picture to yourself a nice soft wife on a sofa with good fire, & books & music perhaps — Compare this vision with the dingy reality of Grt. Marlbro' St.

Not Marry

No children, (no second life), no one to care for one in old age.— What is the use of working 'in' without sympathy from near & dear friends—who are near & dear friends to the old, except relatives

Freedom to go where one liked — choice of Society & little of it. — Conversation of clever men at clubs — Not forced to visit relatives, & to bend in every trifle. — to have the expense & anxiety of children — perhaps quarelling — Loss of time. — cannot read in the Evenings — fatness & idleness — Anxiety & responsibility — less money for books &c — if many children forced to gain one's bread. — (But then it is very bad for ones health to work too much)

Perhaps my wife wont like London; then the sentence is banishment & degradation into indolent, idle fool —

Marry, Marry, Marry Q.E.D.

[via Darwin Online]

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"perhaps quarelling"? Perhaps?!
The "fatness & idleness"... I bet he was a lot more concerned about hers than his.

Posted by: Flautist | Feb 5, 2013 12:04:01 AM

I see, natural selection at work....

Posted by: 6.02*10^23 | Feb 4, 2013 1:40:16 PM

Everyone knows that having a woman to play with and listening to female "chit chat" is better than having a dog.

Posted by: tamra | Feb 4, 2013 1:21:24 PM

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