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February 11, 2018

25 Principles of Adult Behavior — John Perry Barlow

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[via Kottke and the New York Times]

February 11, 2018 at 10:01 AM | Permalink


I don't understand the personal pronoun thing. As a species, *WE* tend to overestimate that others believe the same as us and as a result *WE* use plural pronoun to show others they need to be with us or stand alone.

A personal pronoun allows *US* to be the person that stands alone, and does so without contempt. It allows us to have our feelings and beliefs and own experiences. And yet when others do, they are considered 'narcissists'. For someone that comes from a culture he came from, he should have understood this.

In my training as a therapist, I was always told to use 'I Statements'...I BELIEVE, I THINK, and so forth...it takes responsibility, and it takes ownership. It isn't mealymouthed and doesn't dilute the statement.

If anything, we need to learn when to use the plural, and I need to know when I need to use the personal.

That is just a pet peeve of mine. I disagreed with JPB a lot in real life...I spoke with him only once and he was much kinder than others in the field he was in at the time. Still, disagreed a lot. Sad that he is gone though.

Posted by: clifyt | Feb 12, 2018 10:08:28 AM

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