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January 19, 2020

"I can't do it"


Above, what the multifaceted James Altucher tells people when he receives invitations to do things he'd rather not.

Decades ago I read his advice to use these.four.words whenever opting out, and they have eased my refusals wonderfully.

Try it, you'll like it.

If the person asking doesn't cease and desist right then and there and asks again, simply repeat these.four.words. ad infinitum until they shut up and go away.

If you aren't satisfied with the results, let me know and I'll refund twice* what you paid for this advice.

*clifyt, you get 3x$ back

January 19, 2020 at 12:01 PM | Permalink


To me, saying "I can't do it" means I physically can't.

Most of the time I just don't want to. NOPE. I tell friends all the time "I would help you, but I really just don't want to"...and my friends know me well enough to not ask again. And my acquaintances learn not to ask me to do things that they should only ask a friend. Or more importantly...that they are only an acquaintance.

So...where is my money!!! BBHMB!!!

Posted by: clif mars | Jan 20, 2020 1:54:39 PM

I had a friend who would say "Nope, not interested." It worked great and nobody ever questioned or challenged her since her answer had such a ring of absolute finality.

Posted by: Flautist | Jan 19, 2020 6:25:33 PM

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